This comedian's searing Facebook post on what it's like to be a woman is spot-on

And its gone viral.

This comedian's searing Facebook post on what it's like to be a woman is spot-on

A comedian's Facebook post detailing the barrage of conflicting comments a woman can expect to hear throughout her life has gone viral.

From clothing to dating to having children, it's an exhausting account of the unsolicited advice and expectations that face women from birth.

Bisha Ali wrote the post (with the title "Everything Is Bullsh*t So Do Whatever You Want") on October 13 and since then, it's been shared more 1000 times.

Pic via Facebook/Bisha Ali
Pic via Facebook/Bisha Ali

Writing in the UK Independent, Ali explains what led her to write it:

"Trying to make all of society’s expectations of women funny is hard work. In my case, even as a comedian, it sent me into a rage spiral. Microaggressions sound small - but when you put them together, they can be staggering. Don’t believe me? Then allow me to give you a breakdown of a woman’s life, through the voices of others"

This is worth reading in full.

"“You’re so adorable! You’re gonna be a heartbreaker one day. Your daughter’s so well behaved. Aren’t you pretty? If you give me a smile I’ll give you an extra one too. Do you like princesses? Girls aren’t ghostbusters, they’re princesses! You don’t like princesses? Aah you’re a tomboy, that’s cool too.

"Tomboys are always popular with the boys, but for the wrong reasons. If you want to get a boyfriend you’re better off not being a tomboy. Aren’t you a little young to be dating? Are you really going to wear that outfit? You’ll give people the wrong idea.

"Why don’t you show off some skin? Dress a little nicer, that way you’ll be able to find someone. No one’s gonna notice you dressed like that. Never on a first date. What do you mean you don’t feel ready, this is the third date? Frigid bitch.

"You fucked him on a first date? What a slut. Have you seen how she dresses? She’s begging for attention. You read comics? You must like all the attention you get from the guys. Oh you like videogames? It’s not gonna score you any points you know.

"You can’t dress like that for work, too much leg and too much cleavage. You’re dressed inappropriately. “Aaah I’m so hungover, I got wasted last night and went home with this fit bird but I didn’t even get her name, haha.” Your outfit is distracting in the workplace. You’re gorgeous, I can’t believe you don’t have a boyfriend! You don’t have a boyfriend because you don’t take care of yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how will anyone ever love you?

"I can’t date someone who has been with more people than me, or who makes more money than me. Are you taking contraception? I don’t want to deal with all of that, so you should take care of it. Why are you taking contraception? Is it cause you’re sleeping around? He’s not good enough for you, you’re way out of his league. Why are you so stuck up? You should care more about what’s on the inside. He’s stunning, he’s way out of your league. When are you going to settle down?

"Congratulations on your engagement, do you think you’ll take his name? It’s traditional, some traditions are just nice to keep up. You’re not changing your name to his, are you? Aren’t you an independent, free thinking woman?

"You don’t want kids? But being a mother is part of being a woman. A family isn’t complete without children, I have no idea why you wouldn’t want kids. You’re pregnant! That’s amazing. Did you plan it? Are you going to carry on working? So you’re going to be a stay at home Mum, huh? A housekeeper? Yeah they say it’s a “full time job.” You’re having a kid but you’re going to carry on with your career? Yeah, good luck with that. How can you abandon your children and let someone else raise them while you carry on working? People shouldn’t have kids if they can’t care for them.

"Oh wow, she’s so adorable! She’s gonna be a heartbreaker some day.

"- Some stuff people say to other humans."

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